Is loyalty a MUST? YES will be my respond.
Over the years, I have encountered different types of people. Certainly, the ones that I find amusing are those that forget their benefactor or their mentor. Not only that betraying your mentor is something I can NEVER accept.
Mentor was betrayed by his own student
I have seen time and again where there are people (in order) to climb the corporate ladder will do their best to please their immediate supervisors. I am surprised that the same person within the span of few years after receiving numerous guidance and promotions from his/her mentor had the audacity to betray the mentor. Taking sides with the top management and “condemn” his/her benefactor or mentor!!! It happened in 2013 when the mentor was finally being kicked out of the department and the same individual who betrayed him took his mentor’s job. I simply cannot accept that this really happens in real life. So amazing to me.
Well, you may say these are facts of life. I beg to differ that we don’t have to succumb to this level in order to climb the corporate ladder.
I did not betray my ex-colleague
There are many things we can do to ensure that we uphold our virtues while working in corporate world. There was another incident where my ex-supervisor told me to take over an account from my fellow colleague. I was told that my ex-colleague could not manage the customer well so it made sense for me to take over. I told my ex-supervisor whether he had to consider the feelings for my ex-colleague and also knowing my ex-colleague, he won’t do stupid things to antagonize the customer. I did not take up the offer eventually as I knew this will cause friction between me and my ex-colleague. Secondly, if my ex-colleague was not able to handle, it does not mean I can do better than my ex-colleague. I knew my decision not to accept the offer caused my ex-supervisor pretty angry with me but I maintained my stance and explained to him the situation where the best way will be sort things out and identify the root cause. I know there are customers who always want to take advantage, but I will not let my customers crossed the line once they went overboard.
Till this day, my ex-colleague still value me as a friend and he knows that I won’t betray him. Similarly, I have a handful (not many) ex- colleagues whom I still value as friends as I know they are not fair weather friends rather they are deem as trustworthy and having a strong sense of loyalty/brotherhood.
Those who have gone through military service will know that loyalty or brotherhood plays a pivotal role when we are on a mission. We cannot act alone or act selfishly. We have been taught to watch out for one another no matter what.
Showing sense of gratitude to my teacher
This is my story on loyalty to my teacher back in 1987.
These are the pictures that I took with my teacher both in 1987 and 2013. Though, I no longer lived in Singapore but I will make a point to call and meet up with my ex-teacher whenever I come back to Singapore for a short holiday. He is the one that taught me about being fair to others and gave me the full autonomy to lead a team of players. Back in 1987, I still remember my teacher, Mr Ser tasked me to handle inter-class Table Tennis competition hoping to identify the younger players to replace the older players like myself as we were about to graduate.
I made the mistake by assuming that my class will automatically go into the 2nd round (without competing for 1st round) as the total number of classes competing for having an odd number. I made my own decision and it caused some of the students unhappy with my decision. Mr Ser called me up and gave a good scolding as it was not done fairly. He told me that even though my class will likely win the competition due to many strong players in my class but my class should NOT automatically go into 2nd round without casting votes or draw lots. It should not be based on my own decision. I humbly accept his analogy and I felt bad for being unfair to others. Truly, Mr Ser had given me ample opportunities to learn to lead a team of players to represent my school, he gave me chances as I made numerous mistakes along the way. Not only that, Mr Ser gave me the full autonomy to decide who will be playing (singles or doubles) for every competition. Practically, I orchestrated the entire competition for 1986 and 1987 Table Tennis competition.
To win the competition within 1 year is a miracle to me. In 1986, my school lost every single match as we were new to competition and we had no coaches to guide us. (Just note, we didn’t have any National Youth players in our school let alone we didn’t have a proper training). To cut the story short, one year later we overcame the odds against the likes of some famous schools where we emerged as runner-up in 1987. Definitely, I gave credit to my players and especially to my favorite teacher, Mr Ser for giving so many opportunities to us. Of course winning the competition requires a lot of things but in this article, I will mainly touch on showing my gratitude towards my teacher as he played the main role in this aspect.
Loyalty will always be tested when you are in a situation whether to betray your friend, mentor, relative in exchange for something better. Or it can be simple things like when was the last time you called or visited your friend, benefactor, mentor or relative.
Is loyalty a must? Life is very short and we should take every opportunity we have to make a call or visit your friend, mentor, relative whenever you are given a chance. Don’t betray them as life is short and it is certainly not worth the while.
Similarly, I have a benefactor that I want to thank and his name is Michael Dee, CEO of Morgan Stanley in 2002-2006 who was my customer at that time. Click here for more details.
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